The cult of marriage in society turns into many unhappy or destroyed marriages. Family Lawyer Vicki Siegler believes: it is better to identify problems in relations before marriage than to suffer later. Here are 17 questions that she suggests answering if you doubt the wedding.

Get married is a difficult decision. Perhaps you have long been together, you love every piece of the future husband, you have a lot in common, you like the same leisure. But despite all this, you doubt the correctness of the choice

of a partner or the moment for the wedding. As a family lawyer I can assure you – you are not alone.

I work with pairs that have already begun the divorce proceedings or are still trying to save the family. The more I communicate with them, the more often I hear – one or both partners were panic before marriage.

Some worried about the fact that the wedding day would not be as perfect as they imagined. Others doubted whether their feelings are strong enough. In any case, their fears were real and reasonable.

Of course, not everyone has uncertainty before the upcoming wedding. But if you are faced with doubts and experiences, it is important to take a step back and think. Analyze why you feel uncomfortable.

Perhaps fear is a sign of a more serious and deep problem. 17 questions that are listed below will help to understand this. Answer them before saying “yes”.

For the marriage to be happy, you need efforts from both partners. Do not forget about it when you answer questions. Use a bilateral approach: first ask these questions to yourself, and then let me do the same partner.

Give each other time to read questions carefully and honestly answer them. Then discuss and compare your results. Our goal is to initiate a dialogue about how you can strengthen relationships and build a happy marriage for many years.

Let’s start questions:

1. What do you love a partner for?

2. What do you think he loves you?

3. How strong your relationship is now?

4. How often do you have quarrels and conflicts?

5. How do you solve these conflicts?

6. You were able to solve old problems in relations to move on and build a strong union?

7. Do you encounter a relationship with any type of violation: physical, emotional, psychological? If so, how do you deal with this?